1. 給建議於無形：
取代單刀直入的直述句，用間接的問句降低命令感，引導對方思考其他的可能性，既然是問句，也是給對方空間、將決定的主導權交回對方手中。
Why don't you …? 你要不要嘗試…
Have you thought about …? 你有想過….
Have you tried …? 你有試過…
How about … 還是試試…
e.g.
A: I think I will definitely mess up the presentation. I get nervous on stage very easily. I really can't stand the stress of being stared at in public!
A:我覺得我肯定會毀了整場簡報。我上台超級容易緊張的，我真的沒辦法忍受那種眾目睽睽下的壓力！
B: Why don't you take a deep breath first? You still have 30 minutes before your turn. How about playing some background music during the presentation? Maybe a relaxing rhythm could calm you down?
B:你要不要嘗試先深呼吸放鬆一下？還有30分鐘才輪到你出場哩！要不要試試報告中播放一點背景音樂？也許輕鬆的旋律可以幫助你冷靜下來？
2. 退一步採取客觀立場：
在你的建議之前加上一些客觀的推測，或稍微不是那麼確定性的詞，把主觀強度稍微減弱一點，也是一個不錯的策略。
Maybe you should …也許你應該…
I guess you could …我想你可以…
e.g.
A: There is no way for us to finish the project on time. What should I do?
A:我們不可能準時在期限前完成這個計畫的，我該怎麼辦呀？
B: I guess you could report the problem you have at the moment and seek all the help you can get. Maybe there will be other ways out?
B:我想你可以試著回報你目前遇到的問題，然後盡可能地尋求各種幫助。也許會有其他不同的解決方法呀？
3. 反客為主，交換一下立場替對方想辦法：
如果對方很慌亂，無法冷靜地接受引導或是思考，那也許你可以考慮採取主動一點的方式，設身處地的為對方想個辦法，再以此給出建議。
If I were you, I would …如果我是你，我會…
If you ask me, my advice is to ... 如果你問我的話，我的建議會是…
e.g.
A: Oh no! I forgot to book the table for tonight! My wife will be very disappointed! After all, it's our first wedding anniversary!
A:歐不！我忘了要訂今晚的餐廳位置了！我老婆一定會超失望的，這可是我們的第一個結婚紀念日呀！ B: If I were you, I would phone the restaurant right now and see if they have any cancellation to fill up. Or you can always find another good restaurant!
B: 如果我是你，我會立刻打給那間餐廳，問問看他們是否有任何被取消的訂位可以遞補上；不然你總是可以再另找一間好餐廳呀！
好的建議除了以上幾個經過深思熟慮所選擇的表達方式以外，另外一個不可或缺的要素就是時機點啦！當對方表達希望聽取第三方的意見、或是當下急得像熱鍋上的螞蟻、束手無策時，才是你的建議最容易被好好納入考量的時機；此時不論何種建議，想必都可能是一場及時雨！不過時機點需要等待，好的表達方式則需要練習，以便在時機點來臨時派上用場。你準備好和小編一起，好好練練這些超實用的建議句型了嗎？